I have had a lovely day today. A bustling day, where the house has been full of life and laughter. It’s really has got me thinking about friendship.
My friend Chez, has been my pal for over 17 years. We began as work colleagues, to drinking buddies, and have developed to be Mum’s who though don’t see one another often, feel the need to connect with one another, to share our stories with.
She came over to our house for the day. We had lunch and talked about what was happening in each of our lives, as well as coffee, cake and laughter.
My friend sat and read books and sung songs with Miss A…. lots of books actually, sorry Chez!
Chez and I, I feel will always be friends. We see one another maybe only three or four times a year. It feels easy. We just slip right back to where we left off. But not all friendships are the same are they? Some need constant nurturing and attention others fit like an old shoe.
In fact, if it wasn’t for this great friend of mine. I might never have met Tall Dad, she set us up on a blind date 14 years ago!
I am lucky enough to have good friends who I love and trust. I think sometimes I take that ease for granted.
I wonder, as we wander through life and we make different kinds of friends, whether they are a reflection of ourselves at that point in time.
Let me try to explain.
We make soul mates…no not of the romantic kind, but friends that will always be there. Do we make them when we are at our neediest, or when we are at our most settled?
We make social friends, ones that we go out with and have fun with…but never develops any further than that. Is that when we are feeling at out most frivolous in our lives, when we feel we are young and invincible?
Confidants…the friends we share our inner most thoughts and secrets to, and we would trust with our lives. This is where I’m beginning to get unstuck with my theorizing. Maybe it’s not the stage of life that we make these friends but actually a mutual attraction if you will. A meeting of minds…..perhaps each of our personalities together in this friendship, bond and dictate the kind of relationship we will always have?
Whatever the reason is, I am very fortunate to have the friends that I have….and would like to say thank you, and I promise not to take you for granted!
Thank you for reading
I love this post and glad you had a lovely day with your friend. I do think about friendship a lot, as it is so important to me. My two best friends I’ve known since school (one is my first boyfriend/childhood sweetheart) and I love that we can pick up where we left off however long the gaps in between. I think it’s harder to make really close friends as you get older, only because there are so many other people in one’s life (family, parents, children, work colleagues) but not impossible!
Thanks M. I hope it’s not impossible!
That’s a lovely post! It is lovely when you find your “soul-mate”, and it’s funny how you do just click so well with some people. It is also important to work hard maintaining friendships as so often other things get in the way.
Ahh, I nearly put that point in. There has to be give and take, and work on the friendship I wholeheartedly agree!
Lovely post, thought provoking, honest, personal and considered. Well done friend.. x
Thank you for the lovely comment x