Do you ever feel lonely?
When late at night you just can’t sleep, and silence is so deafening, it only reminds you of the loneliness.
You know when you feel invisible, unknown.
Or if you are in a crowd of people, and you can’t help but feel that everyone is somehow turned away from you?
Its more than a feeling of emptiness, it’s a type of solitude that can cause physical pain.
I have lots of friends, really good friends! I am also blessed with a most amazing family but I’ve always been a person who is very happy in my own company.
It’s just sometimes, I think it’s when I am feeling at my most vulnerable, the loneliness is there, and for a moment it’s painful…
Maybe in my case it’s more a state of mind than actual social exclusion?
What do you think, do you ever feel lonely?
Thank you for reading
This is a post that I wrote some time ago, but hadn’t published. I wanted to describe loneliness, and share how I sometimes feel. Hopefully if you feel simular you might feel you can comment here, even anon.
Molly says
Awh, don’t be lonely A, you are much loved. But I know loneliness strike and feel awful, so my thoughts are with you. Sending you big hugs this morning xxx
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
I’m fine M honest! I do feel like it sometimes, I just wanted to write about it, get it out of my head…LOL x
Tracy ( says
I could have written this! It’s exactly how I am/feel. It’s odd to feel alone in a room filled with people who love you, isn’t it.
I totally get what you mean, and I really should take my own advise when I say, please don’t ever feel lonely, you only have to glance across to see you’re loved so much (include in that!)
Lots of love,
T xx
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
Thanks T, awh so sorry you feel this way.
Loneliness is hard to describe and recognise isn’t it?
Tracy ( says
Always been a lonely soul, I guess. But sometimes I like it that way 🙂
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
I feel the same 🙂
Tracy ( says
Oh, and aren’t you good with all the digital artistry with your photos!!! In the words of my D, ‘I’m well jel’! LOL Loving that image there!
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
Thank you, it’s from my 365 this week, but thought it represented what I was writing about. I’m really pleased with it xxx
jenny cottingham says
“there is a loneliness in this world so great that you can see it in the slow movement of the hands of a clock” ― Charles Bukowski, Love is a Dog from Hell. I find the night time is when the pain of loneliness hits, but at the moment, I feel it in the day, the time when John would fill my voids.. I cannot imagine the pain of loneliness Elaine must be feeling, and that makes me feel I am just being selfish, but loneliness like depression, causes so much distortion, and it wont let go. I hope that as you wrote this some time ago, and as you have now put it out there, that it lets go of you a little, because loneliness definately causes more loneliness.. You bring such cheer and company to others, I hope we can do the same back.. Love you Amanda, A, N & A and hate to think you feel alone.
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
Thank you for this. Yes I believe it does distort things. I also think there must be different levels and kinds of loneliness, depending on what caused it maybe? I am sorry that this is how you are feeling, I think Tracy earlier was right about the need to look around and realise you are not alone, but loved! John would not have wanted anyone to feel lonely, I don’t think.
I do find writing cathartic…but it does tend to bug me until I hit publish…so there are a few in the vault as it were! Love to you Amanda x
Jenny Cottingham says
Yes you are right x and looking forward to see what else you pull from the vault! X
Boo Roo and Tigger Too says
I often feel lonely, as though nobody is interested in me or how I’m feeling. I first noticed this on a school trip when I was 12. It’s something I have come to accept over the years.
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
I am truly sorry this is how you sometimes feel, it’s such a horrible feeling. It sometimes just crashes in on you, doesn’t it? I do think if we recognise it, and put measures in place it helps.
TheBoyandMe says
Sometimes I feel incredibly lonely, and it’s a different state of mind to being alone: you can feel lonely surrounded by hundreds of people! I don’t get it very often, but sometimes it’s that niggling feeling of not being understood by everyone else, of being ignored, of being one on your own amongst so many others. It doesn’t tend to last long, and I don’t get it very often, but it’s overwhelming when it comes. Good on you for writing about it.
Amanda (the Ana Mum Diary) says
Thank you so much for commenting. I agree, sometime it can be a fleeting feeling, but still hurts nonetheless. I’m glad you don’t feel this way very often. Thank you again xx
jenny cottingham says
Hi see ths blog is featured in the top ten at http://www.tots100.co.uk/2012/02/03/best-of-the-parent-blogs-ten-at-ten-44/ well deserved, for being brave here, but also for all the positive blogs you have on this site, Well done x
TheBoyandMe says
Thank you for reading the Tots100 post and popping over to comment on Ana Mum Diary 🙂
(Hope you don’t mind me hijacking the comments!)
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
Not at all! Thank you for featuring me 🙂
Amanda (The Ana Mum Diary) says
Thank you Jenny, really appreciate your support!