If you ask any old married couple how they have survived for as long as they have they will almost always tell you that it is because they worked at it. This is something which of course completely dispels the notion that two people meet, fall in love, accept each other for who they are and then live happily ever after. This latter idea, however, is one which so many believe, and that is why divorce rates are as high 51%.
If you are in a marriage and you are going through a rocky time then fighting for the marriage should always be your first option. If you are unaware of what divorce looks like, go and see what their clients have to say, they’ll tell you just how awful it can be. Divorce can never be completely ruled out but during stressful times in the marriage, it is time to saddle up and strengthen rather than move away from each other.
Remembering The Vows
Those vows were not taken lightly and if they ever meant anything to you then now is the time to double down on that. Even if you wrote your own vows they will likely have included something which related to supporting each other when the chips were down, and now is the time to come good on that promise.
It is natural to seek advice from friends and family but you must ensure that they have the marriage and the protection of the marriage as their MO. The last thing you need are reactionary people telling you to cut and run simply because things are a little difficult.
Taking inspiration from those who have been there and done it is a great way to strengthen your matrimony during these tough times. You are not the first or the last couple to have faced stressful times together and you will not be the last. Those who manage to stay the course are those who take this inspiration and use it to strengthen what they have.
During this tough and stressful time, honesty is more necessary than ever before. You have to remain open with your partner and they have to with you as well. Harbouring feelings, no matter how hurtful they may be, is only going to continue to drive a wedge between you and your partner. It is always better to be punched with the truth than kissed with a lie.
Ultimately this is going to be about breaking the problem down into steps, then taking each step at a time until you pull through. There is always a way, always a route to take which can ensure that both you and your partner do come out of this on the other side. Work together and make sure that this is about you both.
There are some situations which are beyond repair, in the main, however, the marriage will be strong enough to get past just about anything, the key is to put in the work.